Most of us use accoutrements to spice up our sex lives, whether it’s a sex life you have with yourself (and your hand) or a significant other. Well, I have a lot of accoutrements: costumes (lingerie), dildos, vibrators, cock rings, porn. You name it, I’ve got it. I even have a fuck ramp; two in … Continue reading Sex Toy, or Child’s Toy? Both…Maybe?
Men like to believe that they are “all that” in bed, and as women, it’s up to us to convince them they are, at least if we are married to them or want to keep them around. (We can always make suggestions for improvement to help them get there, but that’s another blog entry.) One … Continue reading The Brutal Truth
One of my favorite places to meet my girlfriends for a quick lunch or a drink after dinner is a local hangout about a mile from my house. One evening on a weeknight, Ali and I sat at the bar. We talked about our husbands, our relationships, and life in general. There were four other … Continue reading Meeting My State Representative
Girls Trips! One of the great things about my girlfriends is that we know how to have a great time, and we all accept the quirks in each other that allow us to let loose and enjoy ourselves. (See Blog #30: Hibiscus) There is no judgement, no talking behind backs, no bitchiness. There is acceptance … Continue reading Overboard!
At the peak of our sex life, Matthew and I had sex on average eight times a week. That’s on average. Sometimes it was more. A lot more. Eventually it slowed to five or six times a week. With babies in the mix, I was often not in the mood, but I still did the … Continue reading Code Word: Me
A lot of men are under the impression that women want sex to last a long time. While that is sometimes the case, once you have been married for about ten years and have “hit that” in about every position using every hole (or at least the holes you are willing to use…see the Blog … Continue reading Lidocaine and Sex
A Weekday, Daytime Date Back when Matthew and I were in the first decade of our marriage, he told me he had planned a day date. Excited and curious, I waited with enthusiasm until the day of the event. It was a weekday. He gave me an address and a time to meet him there, … Continue reading An Afternoon of Sex
We all know that a good orgasm helps you fall asleep. Your body feels amazing, and all of a sudden it goes rigid with the quivers of the Big O. Maybe you have a few muscle spasms. And then you collapse, spent. Needing Help Women can close our eyes, conjure up a fabulous fantasy that … Continue reading Can You Help Me Out?
This is another example of something I said I would never do, only to end up eating my words…and taking it in the ass. This post needs no explanation. It is what it is. A lot of you will say “Mine’s one way only” or “Not on your life.” I’ll tell you not to knock … Continue reading Never Say Never II: Anal Sex
On one of many girls trips, my friends and I found ourselves sitting around drinking and sharing stories about our married sex lives. (This happens almost every time we are together. Sorry guys, there are no secrets.) Lyndsey brought up how she hated to give head, and I commented that I didn’t mind doing it, … Continue reading From Start to Finish